Dear readers and friends,
Also today a coaching article on injured people and their identification. This article also has the function of helping if accompanied by sincere introspection, because as I always repeat: no one can lie to themselves and it is useless to make fun of yourself. These articles stimulate self-understanding, acceptance, change where you can and above all love yourself. As in every Life Coaching context we are examining, there are only small explanations and many questions. Finding these answers is our task, discovering ourselves to then improve ourselves and loving ourselves for who we are is the ultimate goal. As has already been said in several articles:
“A question at the right time can change your life or at least the vision you have of it.”
PEOPLE HURT PEOPLE
Do you know difficult people in your life? Individuals who are easily offended by words? Do you have to be careful about everything you say around them for fear of setting off a trigger in them that causes them to lash out in anger? Or maybe this person is you? Are other people walking on eggshells around you? Do they avoid you? Are they holding back out of fear of how you will react?
If you don't address your wounds, you will end up hurting others. When you don't forgive others, you suffer. When you don't forgive yourself, you suffer. This is true on a physical, emotional, relational, and spiritual level.
Here are ten indicators of hurt people hurting others:
1. They feel threatened easily, so they quickly attack with words.
2. They judge others poorly and often assume that other people are against them.
3. They don't see or understand the pain they inflict on other people.
4. They don't understand why others don't understand them.
5. They don't let their guard down, so they're always on the defensive.
6. They don't take responsibility for their behavior.
7. They are easily offended.
8. They react quickly with anger.
9. If they feel cornered about an issue, they will come out fighting.
10. They rarely have close, intimate friendships.
It is very difficult to help a hurt person unless they want your help.
If you are the one in pain, recognize that your pain is causing pain to other people and get help for yourself and the people around you. It really matters.
Here are some common traits that hurt people display when interacting with other people.
· Hurt people usually transfer their inner anger onto family and close friends. Often, people around them become recipients of fits of anger and harsh tones because they have unknowingly become recipients of "transferred anger."
· Hurt people interpret every word said to them through the prism of their pain. This means that words are often misinterpreted to mean something negative towards them. As a result, they are extremely sensitive and react to pain, as reality should be for them.
· Hurt people tend to interpret every action through the prism of their pain. They often come to incorrect conclusions about the motives or evil intentions behind others' actions towards them.
· Hurt people often have a “victim mentality” where they believe they are “victims” of the circumstances and situations that life presents to them.
· Hurt people often find it very difficult to enter into a trusting relationship.
· Hurt people often bring with them a suspicious spirit.
· Hurt people often alienate others and wonder why there is no one there for them. They are often so focused on their own pain that they neglect and disrespect others without even realizing it. They continually hurt the people they love and need most because of their self-destructive behaviors.
· Hurt people are often depressed or frustrated because they allow past pain to continually spill over into the present. In most cases they are not even aware of why they are always depressed or frustrated because they have dealt with the pain by mentalizing it in compartments.
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