ARE YOUR GOALS REALLY RIGHT FOR YOU? FIND OUT WITH THIS EXERCISE

 Dear readers and friends,                                                                   

Today, another coaching article, an exercise on assessing the congruence of our goals. This article, too, can be helpful when accompanied by honest introspection, because as I always repeat: no one can lie to themselves, and there's no point in fooling ourselves. These articles encourage self-understanding, self-acceptance, change where possible, and above all, self-love. As in every Life Coaching context we're examining, there are only small explanations and many questions. Finding these answers is our task; discovering ourselves, then improving ourselves, and loving ourselves for who we are is the ultimate goal. As has been said in several articles: 

“A question at the right time can change your life, or at least your view of it.”

 

Goal congruence refers to the alignment between your goal and your long-term vision, values, and real aspirations, making the goal meaningful and motivating. To be congruent, a goal must be: specific and well-defined, measurable to track progress, realistic but also challenging, relevant to your vision, and time-bound ( SMART method ).  

Goal congruence means that the goal aligns with your values, needs, and deepest purpose, and that the actions you take to achieve it are consistent with your thoughts and feelings. In practice, there's no discrepancy between what you say you want and what you actually do; the goal resonates authentically with you and motivates you to work toward it with determination. 

EXERCISE

Consider a goal you've set for your future; visualize yourself achieving it, and consider the following questions to help you assess how congruent this goal is for you.

1. Environment
2. Behavior
3. Capacity
4. Beliefs and values
5. Identity
6. Scope

• Environment: (External factors or constraints)

1. Where?
2. When?
3. With who?

 

• Behavior: (Performance, actions and reactions)

1. How do you behave?

 

• Capacity : (Knowledge, skills and competences)

1. What can you do/are you doing now? 

•  Beliefs and Values: (What is true for you? Right/wrong, etc.)

1. What do you value and believe in now? 

• Identity: (What is your true(What is your true fundamental identity?) 

1. Who are you without limitations? 

• Purpose: (How does this relate to the “bigger picture” of life?)

1. What broader purpose does it serve? 

Of course, this exercise only works if you're honest with yourself. No one here sees you or judges you; it's just you and you. (And sometimes that's enough.)

Let me know in the comments